Sunday, July 5, 2015

In Response to "At Age 3 — Transitioning From Jack To Jackie"

Courtesy of the Christian family | via npr.org
Before you read my comments below, please take a moment to either read this article by NPR's Eric Westervelt, or listen to the piece on Weekend Edition from July 4th, 2015.


Transitioning is a touchy subject that many of us don't know enough about, don't understand, and don't feel comfortable reacting to - especially in the South. Myself included. I think this article is a fantastic example of a good starting point, particularly for young parents. Seriously, what's the worst that can happen if you embrace your child's strong internal convictions regarding their gender? Sure, it could be a phase - and that's fine, too. Let them have their phases. Let them be themselves. Let them live and learn and experience life without judgement and hatred for as long as you possibly can.

Our individual identities - in terms of gender, of race, and in every other way - are perpetually evolving as we age. That's life. I can't imagine a better response to a sad, three-year-old child than to encourage them, ask them loving questions, and to accept them for whoever they are and whoever/however they want to exist in this crazy world. If they trust you and you are able to maintain respect for their gender identity from a young age, they will be more likely to confide in you in the future as things become more difficult, and maybe - just maybe, we'll be able to witness a decrease in the alarmingly high rates of depression, substance abuse, and suicide that are so common among the transgender peoples of our past and current generations. I'm no expert, and I am not fishing for a Facebook debate by any means; I just hope this post might encourage at least one future parent out there to consider shifting to a more productive perspective on this issue. There's no perfect approach. There's no easy answer. But we can try our damnedest to be more understanding, for the sake of our nation's youth.

Thursday, September 18, 2014

winter playlist

  1. The Crane Wife 3 | The Decemberists
  2. Eve, the Apple of My Eye | Bell X1
  3. Forever | Ben Harper
  4. St. Swithin's Day | Billy Bragg
  5. Mr Blue | Catherine Feeny
  6. You Must Build a Fire | Crooked Fingers
  7. The Engine Driver | The Decemberists
  8. Los Angeles | Denison Whitmer
  9. June Carter Cash | The Finches
  10. For Everyman | Jackson Browne
  11. Honey and the Moon | Joseph Arthur
  12. Gold in the Air of Summer | Kings of Convenience
  13. Astair | Matt Costa
  14. Question | Old 97's
  15. Wonderwall | Ryan Adams
  16. The Avalanche | Sufjan Stevens
  17. Our Time | Tyler Hilton
  18. You You You You You | The 6ths & Katharine
  19. 405 (Acoustic) | Death Cab for Cutie
I made this playlist in the winter of 2007/8, and to this day it’s my trusty go-to, non-holiday, somber, overcast-sky mix that almost always makes me feel calm and like things are okay. It’s admittedly a little on the sad side (my pensive teenage self put this together after all), which is one of the reasons I like it so much. I'll try to post a more upbeat playlist soon so the blog doesn't get too emo.

Right now, though, I am going through a strange transition period in my life, and while I know it’ll all be worth it and worked out in the end, there are some days that change just feels really hard. I realize I’m being a little vague, but sometimes that’s what life is. Shout out to my quarter-life crisis. Anyway, I just thought I'd share this playlist in hopes that it can be a source of comfort and understanding for someone else out there, too. Keep your head up. Happy Thursday, world. xo

// photo via @kevinruss

Thursday, July 10, 2014

warby parker x karlie kloss

Hey guys! So I know I just talked about glasses in my most recent post (you never know what I'm gonna blog about these days), but here I am to tell you about Warby Parker's collaboration with Karlie Kloss. Spoiler: it's really awesome. When the peeps at Warby Parker contacted me about helping spread the word, I'd already heard of the collection and obviously thought the new sunnies were beautiful; then when I read more about the cause behind the the collection, I fell even more in love! The three pairs they designed are the perfect mix of modern + classic. But the best thing about them is that each sale will benefit Edible Schoolyard NYC—an organization that helps low-income public schools by providing kitchens, gardens, and other tools to encourage a healthy lifestyle. How cool is that?


As I was looking into this collaboration more and scouring[/drooling over] Warby Parker's amazing selection, I also learned that the company donates a pair of glasses to someone in need with every single pair that they sell. Maybe this is relatively common knowledge, but I had no idea! Sure, there are some slightly more affordable glasses websites out there, but if you happen to find your favorite pair via Warby Parker you can rest assured that you're helping a great cause (times two if you order a pair from the Karlie Kloss line!). And I'd say that's worth every penny. 

For the record, my favorite pair from the new collection is definitely Clara in Heirloom Gold. They've got a sweet vintage feel and would be flattering on so many different face shapes. Highly recommend. Shop the new styles (Clara, Marple, and Julia) here!

// images courtesy of Warby Parker

Saturday, July 5, 2014

blorange dice x firmoo


Hey, everyone! I'm so excited to offer a giveaway from the website where I got my most recent pair of tortoiseshell glasses (love 'em). Not only can anyone participate in their first pair free program, but you can also enter for a chance to receive a $30 voucher to the whole site (and $30 goes a long way, promise). The rules are SO very simple, and I have five vouchers to give away. Comment on this post with your name and email address before 11:59 pm CST on Sunday, July 6th (tomorrow night) to enter. That's it! So jump on it, peeps.

For those of you that haven't ever ordered glasses online (or have not been able to do so yet successfully), I do have a few little tips:
  • be sure to measure and remeasure your Pupillary Distance (PD) for accuracy
  • give the virtual try-on a chance, but don't rely on that tool solely to make your decision
  • ladies, don't disregard the men's section - there are lots of cool, larger frame options in there!
My favorite things about using Firmoo compared to other online eyewear retailers definitely include the atlas-style glasses case that came with my order, the comment/review sections on each pair of frames, the amazing prices, and the easy check out process. I definitely recommend giving them a chance. Thanks for reading! xx

Saturday, June 14, 2014

twirl next door | edged up


Hello there! I haven't done a super fashion-y (yes, that's a word I use) post in awhile, but when ModCloth asked me to style one of their dresses for a Polyvore challenge, I couldn't say no. I love styling, I love ModCloth, and I have way too much fun on Polyvore (cough cough).  

As easy as it would have been to style this dress in a super girly way and embrace its feminine qualities, I wanted to show that while this dress is certainly appropriate as wedding, work, or date attire, it's also got a lot of casual potential! You can rock this versatile striped mini for pretty much any occasion at any time of year with the right accessories. I know the scarf would obviously cover up the neck detailing, but in doing so that really changes up your look and makes it less noticeable that you did perhaps take pictures in this dress at a dressier event last week. Ya feel me?

Anyway, this was a fun little challenge, and I'm def gonna start using Polyvore more often from now on. Be sure to check out ModCloth's other sweet dresses - there are so many more to choose from! My favorites include wine and tapas, twilight on the terrace, and the laid back luxury dress. At the very least, you've gotta appreciate their creative names. Pretty perfect. Alright, peace out!